I've been on facebook and twitter for a good period of time and one thing I've seen way too much of is generalizations about particular groups. I would even say that I've seen this interacting in society. I want to propose that we STOP generalizing men and women based on personal experiences!
I am absolutely sick and tired of seeing so many tweets and statuses that put men and women in negative generalizations. In no way am I trying to target any particular person or lower the negative experience that might have taken place, but here's my problem: just because one person of a particular gender hurts or mistreats you DOES NOT mean that everyone within that gender group will do the same or has the same mindset.
This hurts those of us who are not in relationships and desire to eventually get in one. Why? Because I'm scared that I'm going to be viewed based on this overall perception that some give us black men (which could be true to a degree). Are there some men who cheat on women, lie to them and treat them as less than a queen? Absolutely! Does this mean that all men will do the same? NO!!! Why are we so quick to put each other in categories based on our personal experience?
I propose that we begin to look at each other individually! Stop putting people in categories based on your own personal experiences. Are some perceptions true? Maybe. Does everyone fit the perception? NO!!! I understand the academics arguments that say that we as humans have to categorize things. But still, that's a disservice to those who have never been in relationships and those who do not fit the perception.
I'm convinced that a lot of these generalizations are brought out of bitterness. Again I am NOT minimizing the potential hurt that is there and if I can be a source of healing and encouragement let me know. HOWEVER, let's stop being a disservice to each other by generalizing one another based on personal experiences.
Everyone is unique and created in the eyes of God! Let's value that!
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